This was one of the hardest things for me so far. Cole and I went shopping, and he was very excited. We got everything from a dress to a princess skirt to pajamas and short sets. I took him to buy shoes, but he wasn't comfortable with that. So okay. I am not driving this car. So far, he has LOVED the dress, but is hesitant to wear it anywhere but home. He's sticking with the girly shorts sets, and I'm all for whatever makes him comfortable. I told him if he wants to wear boys clothes, that's okay, too.
I wish you could have seen how light he was after we bought the girls clothes. It was like a weight was lifted from his shoulders. He was almost giddy. Dancing around, twirling and grinning ear to ear. So happy.
He's acutely aware of what other people think of him, and he is so worried that people will laugh at him. Me, too. So he's being cautious and I'm trying to help. My nanny has been fantastic -- telling him he looks beautiful when he shows her his new clothes. I told him that our home is his "safe zone" where he can wear whatever he wants.
I hope you don't mind these stream-of-consciousness posts -- it's just how the thoughts come to me. Please also ask questions if you have them.
How can we help? Can we send him some things to help him feel accepted as a girl? How about some of Sophie's bows or headbands? I am just presuming that he is going to let his hair grow out a little... I can just imagine him with a little bob like Rosi... he has the best and most loving personality! I can't imagine anybody not accepting Cole with his personality and gorgeous smile! Love that cupcake!!
ReplyDeleteSarah -- you are so sweet. Just your support helps! xoxo
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